The other day I was trying to make a decision. I had several options to choose from. I could do A, B or C. Option A looked good and reasonable. Option B was an alternate choice – still good, but maybe not the best. Option C kind of made me nervous because I wasn’t sure of how it might turn out, but it looked like a good choice. All 3 were “equal” – none of them were “bad choices”. They each had their pros and cons – it was hard to decide.
What do you do in situations like that? As a coach is I listen to people as they try to make good, wise decisions for themselves and their family. Should they stay in their current job or move to a different company? Should they keep the kids in their current school or look for a different one? Should they stay in this relationship or should they withdraw? Sometimes it’s hard to pick the best choice. How do you know what’s best?
Trust the Little Voice Inside
I teach my clients to trust the little voice inside their hearts or trust their “gut”. Some people refer to this as an inner knowing or a sense of which decision is the best one. Or sometimes it’s the opposite – you get a “bad feeling” about one of the choices and you know that’s not the one you should take.
I’ve taught this concept many times and whenever I ask, “Have you ever ignored that “little voice inside” and later discovered you should have listened?” People always say, “Yes!” and they usually have a story to tell where following that little voice would have saved them a lot of grief, heartache or money. If only they had listened!
Action step: That little voice is there to guide you. It really does keep you out of trouble. The more you listen to it, the more direction and clarity you get from it. I don’t claim to know how it works exactly – some say it is your “conscience”, some say it is God’s Spirit, some say it is your “higher self” or an angel. I don’t care what you call it – just listen to it when you know you should and it will help you. [One caveat: Not every little voice in your head should be followed. Notice I said to trust the voice in your heart, not your head. There’s a difference. If you need help figuring that out, contact me.]
I have an exercise that can help strengthen your ability to listen to your “gut”. It’s on my blog: How to Practice Listening to Your Gut
If you need an objective sounding board to help you figure out the best decision to make, contact me. I’d love to help you.